IT'S OK FOR HELP TO ASK Know your triggers There are times when you're more likely to lose it. It might be when you're angry, stressed, feeling embarrassed, drunk or on drugs have a think about what situations trigger you, and come up with better ways to handle these times in future. For example, pick times when you're calm and alcohol-free to have proper conversations Put aside the shame and act It's not fun thinking about times when you've behaved badly. Don't beat yourself up about it it's in the past and now you can do better. It'll be heaps easier if you talk to a mate about this - someone who gets what you're trying to do. Once you've decided what you could have done differently, decide on simple things you'll change, like taking time out to calm down if you're angry, or listening more to what's being said before reacting. 0800 456 450 www.areyouok.org.nz Hauraki Family Violence Intervention Network (HFVIN) is a collective of around 100 individuals representing over 60 organisations from across the Thames-Coromandel and Hauraki Regions. We believe in supporting positive connections between people and strengthening healthy relationships and families. We do this by sharing key messages, holding conversations, sharing resources and by providing training. VIOLENCE FREE coMNDEL IT'S OK FOR HELP TO ASK Know your triggers There are times when you're more likely to lose it. It might be when you're angry, stressed, feeling embarrassed, drunk or on drugs have a think about what situations trigger you, and come up with better ways to handle these times in future. For example, pick times when you're calm and alcohol-free to have proper conversations Put aside the shame and act It's not fun thinking about times when you've behaved badly. Don't beat yourself up about it it's in the past and now you can do better. It'll be heaps easier if you talk to a mate about this - someone who gets what you're trying to do. Once you've decided what you could have done differently, decide on simple things you'll change, like taking time out to calm down if you're angry, or listening more to what's being said before reacting. 0800 456 450 www.areyouok.org.nz Hauraki Family Violence Intervention Network (HFVIN) is a collective of around 100 individuals representing over 60 organisations from across the Thames-Coromandel and Hauraki Regions. We believe in supporting positive connections between people and strengthening healthy relationships and families. We do this by sharing key messages, holding conversations, sharing resources and by providing training. VIOLENCE FREE coMNDEL