me. Explain that women andmen are equaly valable, and demonstrate this in your expectations of sand dau Uniquely you. Help them to explore what makes people diferent, and to appreciate others' strengths. Encourage them to espiore Dads who raise boys who respect You At HFVIN we believe that the best way to keep children safe from family violence is to prevent violence occuming in the first place. This happens when we break the cycle, and creste healbhy safe homes where parents iwhether together or nod who they want to be. Talk about maragingpeer pessue demonstrate respect for each other Childiren leam best by following what they see in their own environment Let's talk. Have frequent, honest and realistic discussions about sexity and nelationships. These can be about TV or movie plots,so All ears. Dont judge them. Ask some questions, but avoid gilling them-tty to have many short conversations, Challenge them to Rishy business Help develop their safe choices together Give them encouragement whenhis works ou and support them to lie All parents have a role to play in this, but as we celebrate White Ribbon Day on 25th November we encourage men to taloe stand against violence against women We're looking at the role dads play in our whanau and celebrating all the awesome iperna dads out there. in our last 2 arbcles we've looked at 05 and S-10 year olds Here's how dads can raise awesome, strong, non-violent kids in se things from the point of view of others the early teen yeas How to teach respect 10-15 years y ith conseguences, as wellas leaming from experience. Keep loving them. Even though you might find some of their behaviour challenging, keep reinforcing your love and that you're there for them lget it, Let your teenagers know that you understand being a teenager can be intense, that emotsons ane all over the place, and that t's hard. Give them words and ways to express themselves Irue 2 You. Keepsupporning your son to be who he warts, ather than tryýing to fit into the man box. Encouragetokeaood Got your back. This includes peer groups that act disrespectfully, Make sure they get that you're womied sbout them, andthat they deserve better, dhailenge them to live by their own values Your call Alwayspresent sexusal relationships as their choice and that they can't be forced to do anything,even by peer pressure Suggest ways they can manage stuations where they feel pressured Build values Be clear about how you expect them to behave, whle aso helping them to develop their own values and to show these n their actions S look at messages about how men and women should act. Keep hecking your own messages to him Talk to me Show your kids how to share their point of view without putting others down,how to listen and how to work things out fairly Shake it off. Heip them solve problems and negotiate new social shuations for themselves Let's tak respect.Tak to them about how they can manage new social situations and what's acceptable in new relationships especialy when they sart going out with people. Ask them how their friends show respect, and how they want to be trested bya happening?Whats the power relationship here?" and "How would you feel f this happened to you or someone you care about? boytriend or girnend Respect online and texting. Tak about the pros and cons of dfferent behaviours online or in texts You're awesome. Foous on their strengths-tak about how to use them to engage with people they re intesested in. Talking and firt ngis0K as long as it's about gettingtobowthe other person, raherthan hang seor even takngabot What to do. Talk about what's acceptable dating behaviour, and help them develop their skills and confidence to manage dodgy sihuaitions Nice one. Keep reinforing any behaviour that shows respect, and shows that they understand Is that a good idea? Build your teenager's ability to be more critical of all media, nduding pom, by asking "Wharts actusaly Talk alcohol and drugs. Disouss in detail how alcohol and drugs affect decisions about things ike sex and he them develop safety strateges. Good mates. Get them to look out for their friends, especiaily in risky situa org.nz how it is for others VOLENCE FREE