Dads who raise boys who respect At HFVIN we believe that the best way to keep children safe from family violence is to prevent iolence Got your back. If they have triends who act disrespectully, be direct about what you see and support them to decide for themselves. Reinforce that you are worried and that they're worthy of respect occurring in the first place. This happens when we break the cycle, and create healthy safe homes where Either it's yes, or it's a no-go. Reep reinforcing that sex has to have enthusiastic consent-everyone has to parents (whether together or not) demonstrate respect for each other Children learn best by following agree to everything that is happening what they see in their own environment. Continue to discuss alcohol and drugs. Tak about the impact drugs and alcohol have on sexual violence, Alf parents have a role to play in this, but as we celebrated White Ribbon Day on 25 Novembes we and their safety strategies. choose now to encourage men to take a stand against violence against women, We're looking at the role Be good mates. Help them make sure their friends are safe. Encourage them to step in if they see risky dads play in our whanau and celebrating all the awesome dads out there. in the final part of our awesome Dads toolbox series, here's how dads can raise awesome, strong, non- violent kids in the late teen years. situations developing, even if they don't know the people involved. You're their dad-that makes you one of the biggest influences on your kids learning respectful behaviour They see how you act and listen to what you say. You can make the difference. Children and teenagers want to learn. If you don't talk about respect, they'll pick up ideas from others their age and from internet, TV, and even porn. Learning from others is not ideal. If they only learn from others, they might learn more about disrespect. You need to provide balance and toach them about respectful behaviour They crave more information. Children and teenagers typically want more sex education than they are given. This includes how to have respectful relationships, so they'll appreciate leaming from you How to teach respect 15-18 years Acting up. Always remind your teenage kids that you love and support them, even when they make decisions you don't agree with. Nice one. Recognise when they show good decision-making, sel-awareness, empathy for others and whern they respectfully work through relationship problems. Encourage them when they show respect for others. Your call. Reintoroe good decision-making and how to leam from the past. Glve them support dont turn out wel Who are you? Keep taking to your sons about how to manage peer pressure to be in the 'man box Reinforce his individuality, flexiblty and tolerance of others differences. Check that he treats women as equals and behaves with respect, not just conforming to what his peers expect when things Respect is passed on. Modeling respectful behaviour for the next generation ill reduce violence towads women. It will give your sons and daughters haper heathier and more peaceful lives. They will be more ikely to raise your grandchidren to be respectful, giving a better future for everyone You are the difference. Toolbox for Dads www.whiteribbon.org.nz Cyber Respect. Remind them they're always worthy of respect and that they know how to treat others onine. If necessary, suggest that they think about how their behaviour fes with their values or personal goals. Keep talking. Keep having frequent, honest and realstic discussions about real-life dating. sexuality and relationship issues Listen, Ask their oprion and listen toandrospect their views·lfnood be, remind them of the skills they can use TFRE